When Two Isn’t Better

2020 | Week of May 4 | Radio Transcript #1358

The Bible, in a myriad of ways, honors mothers.  Stories of Jocabed, Moses’s mother; Hannah, Samuel’s mother; Elizabeth, John the Baptist’s mother; and certainly, Mary, the mother of Jesus, in addition to the Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31, all remind us of the importance of mothers.  These stories span the Old and New Testament and happened thousands of years ago, but the importance of mothers in the lives of their children and society has not changed.

What we have found is that the finest day cares available, the best nannies money can buy, the greatest relatives anyone could ask for are still inadequate substitutes for mothers in the lives of their children.  Studies repeatedly show that for young children, spending great amounts of time with mom is great insurance for growing up healthy, happy and well adjusted.   The old adage is still true—mothers shape nations because they shape the lives of those who are the future of nations.

In June 2015, five lawyers in black robes said as they began legally dismantling marriage and parenting, they believe if one mother is good, two are certainly better—or even more alarming, that mothers aren’t necessary at all. However, those justices on the US Supreme Court couldn’t be more wrong.

What the court and others who have pushed and are continuing to push this insidious agenda don’t understand is that the magic in child-rearing isn’t just the number two; it’s the complementarity of one man and one woman. It isn’t just any two people rearing a child that is in the best interest of the child.  What is in the best interest of the child, and ultimately of society, is for two people of the opposite sex who are married to each other to parent the child.  In fact, what we know is that compassionate and caring societies always come to the aid of motherless or fatherless homes; they never intentionally create them because they know the success rate of such homes is significantly less than that of homes with married men and women.  Apparently we are no longer a compassionate and caring society.

While mothers are virtually indispensable, in the business of child-rearing, they are only half of the equation.  In fact, a mother is at her very best when she has a husband who loves and supports her and contributes actively to the parenting of their children.  Mothers and fathers complement one another in the home, each giving to their children necessary components that enable them to grow up healthy and secure.

When two women purposely deprive their children of a father, as would be the case in so-called “same-sex marriages,” they are not mothers who are thinking first of their children. They are putting their adult desires ahead of the best interest of their children. These are women who far removed from the examples of Jocabed, Hannah, Elizabeth, Mary and the Proverbs 31 Virtuous Woman—all of whom were married to men and all of whom put their children’s needs ahead of their personal desires.

Consider probably one of the most famous homosexual moms, Rosie O’Donnell.  Years ago in an interview, reporter Diane Sawyer asked Rosie if her son Parker ever asked about his father.  Rosie replied, “Well, of course he does.  He’s a normal six-year-old boy.”  Diane responded, “What do you tell him when he asks that question?”  To which, Rosie said, “I tell him he can’t have a daddy because I’m the kind of mommy who wants another mommy.” At that point, Rosie is showing she isn’t being the best mother she could be or should be.  She is letting her selfish adult desires take precedence over the genuine needs of her son for a father and all that a father gives to a son. That’s a pretty sad picture of motherhood—when the best examples of mothers throughout human history have been willing to sacrifice their needs and wants for the good of their children.

Yes, mothers are special people.  They deserve our honor and respect and a day set aside for them. However, in the process of giving recognition to mothers, we as a society must be careful to also uphold the Gold Standard—God’s Standard—for motherhood—mothers married to fathers.  This week as you think about honoring your mother, as is right and proper, consider also what you can do to for the future of this country by strengthening and preserving one-man and one-woman marriage.

This is Julaine Appling for Wisconsin Family Council reminding you the prophet Hosea said, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”

Julaine Appling has taught on the junior high, high school, and college levels, and for five years was the administrator of a private school. In 1998 she was asked to become the Executive Director of Wisconsin Family Council, where her mission is to advance Judeo-Christian principles and values in Wisconsin by strengthening, preserving, and promoting marriage, family, life and liberty. In addition to regularly being interviewed for Wisconsin television, radio, and newspapers, she is the host of "Wisconsin Family Connection," aired weekly on almost 50 radio stations in Wisconsin including the VCY America radio network.

Learn more at WIFamilyCouncil.org

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