Preference vs. Orientation vs. Deciding

Julaine Appling

2020 | Week October 19 | Radio Transcript #1382

In the space of three days, the LGBTQ+ issue was front and center in situations involving two different high-profile Americans.

On Tuesday, the second day of the confirmation hearings for Judge Amy Coney Barrett, President Trump’s nominee to the US Supreme Court, Democrat California Senator Dianne Feinstein asked Judge Barrett if she would “roll back hard fought freedoms and protections for the LGBT community.”[1] Judge Barrett responded, “Senator, I have no agenda, and I do want to be clear that I have never discriminated on the basis of sexual preference and would not ever discriminate on the basis of sexual preference.”

When the Democrat Senator Hirono from Hawaii’s turn came to question Judge Barrett, she gave the following scathing diatribe when referring to the Judge’s earlier response on this issue, “Not once, but twice, you used the term sexual preference to describe those in the LGBTQ community. And let me make clear, sexual preference is an offensive and outdated term. It is used by anti-LGBTQ activists to suggest that sexual orientation is a choice. It is not. Sexual orientation is a key part of a person’s identity. That sexual orientation is both a normal expression of human sexuality and immutable was a key part of the majority’s opinion in Obergefell, which by the way, Scalia did not agree with.…I don’t think that you used the term sexual preference as just a … I don’t think it was an accident.”[2]

We don’t have time to unpack all of that but suffice it to say Senator Hirono was carrying the water that day for the LGBTQ+ community. She and others in the public arena who went after Judge Barrett for using “sexual preference” rather than “sexual orientation” put her in a position of having to make a public statement in which she said she was not intending to offend anyone with her statement.

The truth is she didn’t owe anyone an apology.  Sexual orientation isn’t immutable; it is a preference. It is true that the issue is complex for some people, but the science clearly shows that a sexual preference other than heterosexuality is not inborn nor is it unchangeable. In addition, there are now so many “orientations” being recognized that one is clearly making a preference for the type of “orientation” one is choosing.

Meanwhile on Thursday, Democrat presidential candidate Joe Biden took a question from a mother who said her eight-year-old daughter is transgender. That right there is just breathtaking. However, the mother went on to slam the Trump administration for attacking the so-called “rights of transgender people,” and asked Biden what he as president would do to “reverse this dangerous and discriminatory agenda and ensure that the lives and rights of LGBTQ people are protected under US law?”[3]

Biden quickly responded, “I’ll change the law…The idea that an eight-year-old child or a ten-year-old child decides, ‘I decided I want to be transgender. That’s what I think I’d like to be. It’d make my life a lot easier.’ There should be zero discrimination.”

You have to wonder if Biden really heard what he was saying. He was saying, for instance if you carry what he said out to where it would eventually go, taxpayers should pay for the hormone therapies and surgeries a child or an adult want so they can try to do the impossible—change their gender so their lives, they think, will be easier. In addition, this “no discrimination” idea will result in boys and men having free and open access to girls and women’s athletic teams, not to mention locker rooms and rest rooms.

Notice, too, that here Biden uses the word decides.  That did get the attention of the LGBTQ+ community but as has happened on so many issues, Biden got the benefit of the doubt of not really being aware of what he was saying since no one decides to be transgender, they argue; they are simply conforming their bodies to reality. What an amazing perversion of truth and reality.

If there is an apology to be made anywhere, it should be from Biden to parents everywhere because what he has basically done is said he’ll do everything in his power, should he become president, to ensure school officials, for instance, push the transgender agenda on innocent minors, encouraging them to reject reality and accept and act on a lie. If that’s not child abuse, I don’t know what is.

Last week was a powerful reminder that those pushing the LGBTQ+ agenda remain as aggressive as ever and intend to keep their issues front-and-center either in the court or in policy or in both. The voters will have something to say about that on November 3.

This is Julaine Appling for Wisconsin Family Council, reminding you the Prophet Hosea said, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.”


[2] Ibid.



Julaine Appling has taught on the junior high, high school, and college levels, and for five years was the administrator of a private school. In 1998 she was asked to become the Executive Director of Wisconsin Family Council, where her mission is to advance Judeo-Christian principles and values in Wisconsin by strengthening, preserving, and promoting marriage, family, life and liberty. In addition to regularly being interviewed for Wisconsin television, radio, and newspapers, she is the host of "Wisconsin Family Connection," aired weekly on almost 50 radio stations in Wisconsin including the VCY America radio network.

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